Expand your emotional intelligence

Becoming emotionally enlightened

What’s brewin’ this month? Becoming Emotionally Enlightened and Feeling all The Feels Ever have a hard time expressing your emotions? Ever lose your temper with someone who was just plain exasperating? Ever feel a twinge of envy when someone else seemed to be experiencing success so easily, so seamlessly? Ever look at someone you love […]

1 Strategy for Dealing with Envy

Ever experience a skosh of envy? You’re sooo not alone. Envy is a natural feeling as a part of our human design. When integrated in a healthy manner it propels us forward. It can be a driver toward goals and help us expand our capacity & potential– a big component of Self-leadership. Envy is not […]

How do you find contentment in your life?

I’m in love with Ted Lasso. The show. The characters. The story lines. The jokes. The kindness. The feels. I am 100% content when I watch this show. But contentment is a rare commodity. Especially these days. Many of us hardly ever feel content. Yet… when we do, we experience renewed faith in ourselves. The […]

How to have self compassion in the dark of night

Sometimes, the feelings we avoided last year, last month, last week or yesterday, come bubbling up to the surface in the quiet hours of the night. They knock on our hearts and minds, demanding to be greeted. Sometimes, we are so hard on ourselves we let these feelings take over. Sometimes, we get so scared […]

Lean into your emotions

Where and or with whom can you safely complain/ vent/ expunge/ process your emotions in a supported and healthy manner? If you have no place, or want to improve your supportive resources, how might you create a sacred space [with friend[s], a support group, partner, therapist, etcetera] that allows you to be truly seen, heard […]

Why expressing your emotions is not “woowoo”

We have more in common than we have differences, including our emotions, and the sooner we practice expressing our feelings – appropriately –  and allowing others to do the same, the sooner we increase our mental health, strengthen our relationships, improve our decision making and enhance our ability to create and adapt successfully. Empathic leaders […]

The benefits of expanding your emotional literacy

Emotions can be messy. Sometimes they make us say or do something we regret. Most adults prefer to shy away from even talking about them. When we deny emotions such as restlessness, irritation, anxiety, depression, pessimism, discouragement or hopelessness unwanted outcomes prevail. We become sick, we distract ourselves with drugs, alcohol, shopping or other addictive […]

How to help others feel understood

Something magical happens when we feel understood. Empathy, as defined by Karla McLaren, author of The Art of Empathy, is the “social and emotional ability that helps you feel and understand the emotions, circumstances, intentions, thoughts, and needs of others, such that you can offer sensitive, perceptive and appropriate communication and support.” The world could […]

Fundamental skills of EQ and Emotional Literacy

It’s not always you. Some. People. Are. Taxing. Emotionally. Draining. Good news though – you CAN be empathic without letting them rob you of your mojo. And remember… almost 99% of the time, it’s really NOT about you, it’s a reflection of what’s going on with them. Do you know the 4 fundamental skills of […]

3 questions to help you stop settling for less

I had a raw conversation with a client last week about the subversive nature of mediocrity taking over his business of late. His culture is beginning to erode and he was settling for less than what he was worthy of expecting & requesting. We got into a deep self-leadership conversation on the concept of settling. When […]